How to be a Great Girlfriend

Many women are not sure what a man wants or who they can be a good girlfriend to the man in their life.  A lot of women struggle because they just aren’t ever really sure what men like and what they don’t.  You shouldn’t change who you are, but there are some things that you can do or not do if you want to be a great girlfriend.

1. When you’re out on a date, eat something!  There is nothing that is a bigger turn off than a girl who doesn’t like to eat.  It doesn’t mean you need to eat until you make yourself sick, but it does mean that you need to order more than water with a lemon in it.  He wants someone he can have fun with, and guys like to eat!  If you want to be a great girlfriend, order something when he takes you out!

2. Don’t sit around and talk about your ex boyfriend.  He is your ex because he is no longer in your life, or at least that is what your man wants to think.  He doesn’t want to hear the good things and he doesn’t want to hear the bad things about the guys in your past.  Just leave the topic of ex boyfriends out of the equation.

3. When it comes to affection and sex, don’t be afraid to tell him what you want from him.  Men often get frustrated with women who aren’t open and honest about what they want from a man in a physical sense.  He’ll think it is sexy if you ask for what you want.

4. Accept the fact that he will want to hang out with his friends from time to time.  What a man wants is a woman who can be a lot of fun to hang out with, but one who is also independent and confident enough to allow him to hang out with his friends on his own from time to time.

5. Don’t say “I Love You” too soon and don’t expect him to say it back when you do.  Many men are turned off by a woman who rushes into saying these three words.  Once he has said the words, don’t expect him to say it 100 times a day.  This neediness is a real turn off to a man.

If you follow these simple little tips you will find that it is a lot easier to keep your boyfriend happy.  It can be difficult to do some of these things, but you’ll find when you go this route that you will be able to be yourself and get really real with him really fast.  Of course, it’s important to be yourself, and if these tips don’t coincide with who you are, you definitely should not follow them!

How You Can be a Great Boyfriend

Many men are really lost as to what it is that women are looking for in a man.  They feel like just when they are beginning to understand what a woman wants, something changes.  The fact of the matter is that there are some things that every woman wants in a man, regardless of her personality, her age, or even the type of man that she is looking for.  When you know what every woman wants, you will find that the art of making a woman happy is much easier than you would have ever thought.

1. Remember that making her swoon is important.  Remember the butterflies that you would get in your stomach every time you saw the first girl that you really liked?  This is important to a woman.  If there are not any butterflies she will not stay interested.  If she has to work at wanting to be around you for the first three months it just won’t last.  Do what you can to give her butterflies.

2. A woman wants a man who can make her laugh.  You shouldn’t try to be funny or be false when you are trying to make her laugh, but find out what makes her smile and cater to it.  A girl loves to laugh, regardless of her age, so put your best foot forward and make her laugh and smile as much as possible, not only when you first meet but throughout your time together.

3. Be affectionate.  You need to find out what sort of affection that she likes, but make sure that you show her affection often.  A woman doesn’t like to feel like the man she is with isn’t sure about her, so make sure that you show her the affection that you have for her.  Be careful with public displays, but play around with affection and show her that you care.

4. Be willing to hang with her friends.  A man who is not willing to meet and hang out with her friends is not a man who is going to be kept around for long.  You don’t have to love her friends, but be willing to be social and hang out with her friends from time to time.  If her friends are important one of the best things you can do is love her friends, too.

5. Make her feel like she can be herself with you.  What a woman really wants is a man that she can be herself with.  Let her know that you think she is beautiful when she gets out of bed in the morning, when she is wearing sweat pants and a t-shirt, or when she doesn’t have any makeup on.  Embrace who and what she is underneath it all.

Romantic Gifts that are Sure to Impress

Whether it is for Valentines Day or an anniversary or just a day when you want to let your loved one know that you love them, giving a romantic gift should be a lot of fun.  It is even more fun to give romantic gifts when you know it is something that they are not expecting or something that they never received before.   Giving a unique romantic gift isn’t nearly as difficult as you might think that it is.  If you are looking for something out of the ordinary to give, consider one of the great gifts mentioned below.

1. A dozen roses.  Instead of giving just the typical red or pink dozen roses, why not give her a dozen gold roses. As in 24 karat roses.  There are a lot of jewelers that offer gold roses during all times of the year and instead of just giving her the roses that you can pick up at the local florist, give her roses that mean a bit more and will make it the most memorable dozen roses she has ever received.

2. Give a personalized romance novel. There are a couple companies that will actually allow you to choose a plot and they will create a romance novel that is about the two of you.  Of course, the plot cannot be completely personalized, but you can choose from a variety of plots and your names will be in it!  This is a gift that they are sure not to forget any time soon!

3. Give a message in a bottle.  If you have something that you want to say but you want to deliver the message in a special way, try a message in a bottle.  You can create it yourself or you can go to one of many companies that offer the service.  You simply choose a decorative bottle, write a message on a piece of decorative paper, place the paper in the bottle, and then ship it to her.  If you are going to propose you can even put the ring in the bottle!

4. If you want to give your lover the stars, why not actually give them a star?  The International Star Registry will actually allow you to buy a star.  The recipient will get a certificate that will name them the owner of the star, complete the date that it was purchased for them, the name that they choose, and the location!

5. Customized box of chocolates.  Don’t just buy a box of chocolates when you want to give a romantic or loving gift, make it personal.  You can not only hand pick the chocolates that are inside so that they love every bite, you can also personalize the box with a special message inscribed on it or you can even put a picture of the two of you.  This will mean a lot more!

As you can see, there are some truly unique gifts that will allow you to make a statement of how much you love someone.  Any time is a good time to give a unique gift such as one of the items listed above, and that is because they show how much you care.  Thought and effort will go into any and all of these options, but it will be worth it when you see the pleased look of the face of the recipient!

Spring Date Ideas

Now that spring is rolling around many people are looking forward to date opportunities that don’t involve being indoors.  When the winter weather is lifting we are all looking for excuses to spend more time outdoors or just change up the routine.  You can even change up your dating routine, and you’ll find that these spring date ideas don’t have to break the bank, either!

Visit the zoo or the aquarium.  While there may be some indoor aspects of these places, going to the zoo or the aquarium during a sunny spring day can be a lot of fun.  You can layer your clothes so you can take off a jacket if it is warm or you can keep it on if the wind is blowing or it is not as warm as the sun would lead you to believe.  Being out in the fresh air will be a lot of fun!

Stop at a nearby park and have lunch on a blanket.  This is a really simple date that can cost you as little as a lunch that you pack and bring with you.  You can sit on the blanket, eat your lunch, and just enjoy one another’s company.  If you want to bring some joy and laughter to the date you can invite your date to swing on the swings with you!  This is a lot of fun, especially if you haven’t done it in awhile.

Why not go to a sporting event?  It’s in the spring months that being outdoors at a sporting event finally becomes tolerable.  Invite your date to your favorite sporting event or buy some tickets to their favorite team’s game and surprise them!  This will be a lot of fun and may allow you to enjoy being outside for the first time since the fall!

Why not check out the local museums?  It’s often in the spring months when the local museums start holding special events or change up their displays so you can take in something new and interesting when you visit.  Make sure that you discuss what type of museums that you both like to visit so you can both have a good time while visiting the museum because not everyone likes the same sort of art!

Go fishing!  Throw the poles in the back of the car, grab some lunch to go, and head out to the lake or river and spend a couple hours fishing.  Even if you don’t catch anything, or if you don’t keep it if you do, this can be a great way to spend the afternoon!  If your date doesn’t fish, this is a great opportunity to teach them.

Go for a hike!  If you both like the outdoors and the weather permits, why not go for a hike in the mountains or local National Park?  This will allow you to get some exercise, fresh air, and enjoy the uninterrupted company of one another.  Hiking can be very romantic because it often feels as though you have the whole world to yourself.

As you can see, there are a lot of really fun date ideas that are perfect for the warming spring weather.  Don’t be afraid to think outside the box a bit and enjoy the natural beauty of your area.  There are a lot of fun things to do, none of them have to be expensive!

How to Find The Man Who is Right For You

Many women spend a good portion of their life searching for “Mr. Right” and try as they may, they just are not able to find them.  The fact of the matter is that there is someone out there who would be great for you, that you could really connect with and even have a good time with, even if you don’t think so.  You just need to start taking some different steps to find the person who is right for you.

There are some simple things that you can do to help you find the right man:

1. Stop looking for Mr. Right.  The women who generally struggle the most with finding the right man are those who are always looking for men.  When you stop looking, suddenly you will find that you have a life that is full of great men, or at least the potential to meat some great men.  When you stop searching and allow it to happen naturally, you’ll stop forcing things to happen.

2. Work on yourself.  Instead of focusing on finding the right man for you, why not focus on being the best woman that you can be?  When you do this, you will take the focus on what other people can and cannot do for you and put it on being who you want to be.  When you are happy with yourself you will find that it is a lot easier to attract people that will really make you happy.  When you become the woman that you want to be you’ll find that happiness comes with other people, as well.

3. When you have worked on yourself and stopped looking, think about what you expect from a relationship.  When you determine what you want from a man it is a lot easier to focus in on finding the man who is right for you and knowing him when you see him.  When you know what you want you won’t have to learn as you go that the person is just not able to give you what you need.  Be real with yourself about what you want from a man so you can be sure that you only spend time with those men who can do that for you.

4. Consider your expectations.  Many people consider themselves unlucky in love but it is not necessarily that they haven’t met anyone worth spending time with, it is because their expectations are simply too high.  You need to re-evaluate what you expect from other people and think about whether or not what you expect is realistic.

If you follow these four steps you will find that finding Mr. Right isn’t nearly as difficult as you may have thought.  Be happy and content with who you are, that will make finding someone to spend your time with a lot easier and when you do find them, you’ll enjoy that time so much more.

Dealing with Your Nerves on a First Date

If you are going on a date with someone that you really like for the first time it is normal to be nervous.  Many people allow for their nerves to get the best of them, which works to sabotage their relationship.  You don’t have to give into your nerves; instead you can take charge and make sure that you have a great first date despite having the jitters!  Everyone is nervous on a first date, even if just a little bit, so take charge of those jitters and have a good time.

1. Admit that you are feeling nervous.  Many people do not want to admit that they are feeling nervous, but trying it keep it all in actually makes the nerves worse.  When you just tell your date that you are feeling nervous you’ll get it out there, you’ll feel like you can relax a bit, and you might find comfort in the fact that they too are nervous!

2. Be yourself.  We often allow the jitters to take over when we are worried about putting our best face forward.  Instead of being focused on being the best that you can be, just focus on being yourself.  When you are committed to being who you really are you will find that the date will move along much more smoothly and that the nerves slowly dissipate.

3. Get the conversation started.  If you are worried that you aren’t going to have anything to talk about, simply start with what you know you have in common.  If you met through friends talk about how you met your friends, if you met at the mall talk about what you were shopping for, and so on.  When you get the conversation started chances are that you will be able to keep it going.

4. Compliment them.  A great way to get things going is to complicate your date.  Don’t simply compliment them on anything though; make sure that your compliment is sincere.  When you are sincere in your compliments it will put your date at ease, let them know that you like them, and things will likely take off.

5. Listen when your date talks.  Many people worry that they don’t have anything to talk about, but you’ll always have something to talk about if you simply listen to what they are saying.  If the conversation suddenly dies off, pull something out from what they said and ask them to elaborate on it.  It’ll make them feel good that you were listening and you’ll learn more about them.

If you follow these simple tips you will find that your jitters disappear or at least manageable.  If possible, pick the place where you will be going on the date so you are somewhere that you are comfortable, because this will help you feel more at ease on the date, as well.  You may also be able to help them choose something to eat or drink, which is a great way to break the ice.

How to Let Someone Know You Are Interested

If you are interested in someone but you aren’t sure how to let them know you aren’t alone.  A lot of people struggle with taking that next step.  Unfortunately the whole situation is complicated by your emotions and your nerves and that makes you second guess your approaches to telling someone that you like them.

1. A great way to let someone know that you like them you can simply listen to them when they talk and then make it known later that you have heard them.  For instance, if someone tells you what their favorite kind of coffee is, the next day you can bring them that favorite cup of coffee.  It is a small gesture, but it will not go unnoticed.  You can do this with anything such as a favorite candy, color, etc.

2. Bring them little gifts.  It doesn’t need to be anything expensive, and it can even be something that you made.  What you should do is tell the person that you saw something and it made you think of them, so you brought it to them.  This will let that special someone know that you like them.

3. Send them emails just asking how their day is going.  When you show interest in someone in this way you are making it clear that you are interested in them.  The note doesn’t need to be long or involved, just a little note asking them how their day is.

4. When you know that they have something going on, ask them how it is going.  For instance, if you know that they are planning a party for a friend, ask them how the party planning is going.  This will make them feel good that someone cares enough to ask and it will give them a little insight into your feelings for them.

5. Ask them out to dinner.  You don’t ask someone out to dinner if you don’t like them.  You should definitely ask someone to dinner or even to lunch if you want to let them know that you like them.  If you are embarrassed to ask them face to face, just send them an email and ask them if they would like to go grab something to eat.  Keep it casual, and if it goes well you can let them know in a more straight forward manner that you are interested in them!

Letting someone know that you are interested in them is often more difficult than we want it to be.  If we didn’t care how we were perceived it would be easier, but when it is someone that we like we always want to put our best foot forward.  Just let them know that you like them, the worst thing that happens is that they don’t return the same sort of affection and at least then you don’t waste anymore time on someone who doesn’t feel the same!

Interesting Valentines Day Facts

Valentines is the holiday for lovers and for love and many of us celebrate it without thinking about it.  We buy the chocolates, the cards, the roses, and we go to dinner but we don’t know some of the most interesting facts about Valentines Day.  This year create some interesting conversation during that romantic dinner by sharing some facts about V-Day!  You may actually pick up some tips when you learn about what other people are thinking or doing on Valentines Day!

1. While you may celebrate the day of love every year, the fact of the matter is that        only about 26% of the population celebrate the day of love.  A whopping 20% think that the day should be done away with altogether!
2. Times have changed!  How have times changed?  In the past the man was always expected to pay the bill but this is no longer the case.  Today even on Valentines Day the person who did the inviting pays the bill, whether it was the man or the woman!

3. Most people spend at least $100 per person on their romantic Valentine’s dinner!  Perhaps this is why many people just want to shrug off this day of love as just another day.

4. Most people who are choosing to share a romantic dinner with someone on the 14th day of February are choosing the same kind of cuisine.  In fact, the most popular choice on this holiday is French cuisine, though Italian is a close second.

5. About half of the population of those who celebrate this holiday make their reservations for their romantic evening at least three weeks in advance.  A very small percentage of people actually just walk into a restaurant on V-Day because it is so difficult to get in.

6. People who go out on V-Day generally choose a restaurant that is quiet, is dark or has soft lighting, or those that have breath taking views.  Of course, good food and a good wait staff is also important!

7. More people drink wine with their Valentine’s Day dinner than drink champagne, which used to be considered a staple for this romantic holiday.

These are just a few of the interesting facts about the romantic holiday that so many people celebrate that you may not have known before.  You may just want to share this information with your mate for something to chit chat about, or you can keep the facts in mind when you are planning your romantic day with your honey.  Knowing what kind of foods are eating and how much they spend may be the perfect guide for you to plan an evening that he or she will not forget.

Great Ways to Ask a Girl Out

Do you often meet women that you would like to take out but you just aren’t sure how to make it happen?  If so, you are like a lot of other guys who just don’t know how to take an interest in a girl to asking her out on a date.  The great thing is that asking a girl out is not complicated, or at least it doesn’t have to be.  Many men make it really complicated or difficult when you just need to come across as the nice guy you are and let a girl know that you are interested. 

There are some simple ways to ask the girl out including:

1. Ask her if she wants to grab dinner sometime.  This is a great way to let a girl know that you are interested without actually saying the words, “Will you go out with me?”  There is just something about that phrase that makes most guys cringe, but simply asking her if she will have dinner with you sometime is very casual, allows you to express interest, but won’t make you feel like a huge jerk if she says no.  If she says yes, set a date.  If she says no, that’s okay too!

2. Ask her to go out to the game to you.  If you know that you both like the same team and you have tickets, ask her to go to the game with you.  If you don’t have tickets but would like to use this as an excuse to get closer to her, ask her to come to your house and watch the game with you on the big screen.  If she’s interested, she’ll accept!

3. Ask her to go to coffee with you.  Going to grab a coffee is something that we all do at least once a day, and if you know that she drinks coffee; ask her if she wants to try out a new café with you sometime.  Or, just ask her to go to your regular place and buy her a cup of coffee that you enjoy and she has never tried before.  This is a safe in because if she says no you can just ask her if she wants you to pick her up anything, so it looks like you weren’t actually asking her out!

4. Ask her to see a movie with you.  Mention a movie that you want to see and if she says that she also wants to see it, ask her to come with you.  A movie is a great date and it is a way to get to know her a bit better. 

5. Just tell her you want to take her out this weekend.  This is a simple and straight forward approach that a lot of women really appreciate.  If you like her let her know it.  If you want to take her out, just let her know that is what you want.  You will find that a lot of women really respond well to this!

How to Land That Second Date

Many people find that they have what they think are a lot of really great first dates.  Everything goes well, you seem to really quick, and then…nothing!  Why can’t you score that second date?  The fact of the matter is that there are some things that you can do to help you get that coveted second date that may allow you make a go of a connection that you make on a first date.

1. Don’t leave it all on the floor on the first date.  In other words, you have to leave them wanting more.  If you do everything that you can possibly do on the first date, they don’t have a reason to call you back for a second date.  This doesn’t mean that you can’t flirt and have fun, it just means that you need to leave something to the imagination.  When you leave them wanting more they will have a hard time NOT calling you for a second date.

2. Make sure that you have fun.  People pursue other people who like to have a good time.  If you make sure that you let loose and enjoy the date you will find that the other person is really drawn to you, and because you are having fun they will have fun, too.  This is important because everyone wants to be with someone who is fun…so have fun!

3. Be honest about who you are and what you are looking for.  If you are honest and up front it will show.  People like honest people, so when you come across as though you have nothing to hide, you’re more likely to make a connection and prompt someone to call you back.

4. Call them and ask them out for a second date.  You don’t always have to wait for the other person to make the first move.  Give it a couple days, and if they don’t call you back, call them!  Many people are just like you, they want the other person to initiate making the second date.

As you can see, landing that second date doesn’t have to be difficult.  It is not only about what you do on the date, it is about what you do after the date.  You should definitely make it known at the end of the first date if you would like to go out again, as this will make the person more likely to call or at least be honest with you about the chance for another date so you know where you stand instead of just hoping.  A second date doesn’t have to be difficult, you just need to make the right moves to get there.