Making a One Night Stand Work

While many people cringe at the idea of a one night stand, other people look forward to the no strings attached opportunity to connect with someone for a short period of time.  If you want a one night stand to work out well, there are some things that you should and should not do.  Of course, you may not always plan ahead for these things to happen, which is why you need to keep some tips in mind at all times.

Tip #1:  Don’t invite the back to your place.  If you invite him or her back to your place you lose all control.  If you go back to his or her place you can have some fun, spend some time with them, and make your exit when you are ready.  It’s much more difficult to make that clean break if they are in your house, in your bed, and knows where you live!  You may have a hard time making it a one night stand if you allow them to come to your place.

Tip #2:  Make sure you use protection.  Much of the excitement of a one night stand is wrapped up in the unknown.  You don’t really know the person, they don’t really know you, but you’re still moving quickly.  While you can get caught up in the moment, make sure that you protect yourself.  The last thing you want is a lasting reminder of the night in the form of an STD or even a cute little baby.  Protecting yourself will allow you to leave the experience behind you.

Tip #3:  Have fun!  When you are in a relationship you have an obligation to fulfill not only physical but also emotional needs when you have sex.  When you have a one night stand you don’t have the same requirements to tend to the emotional aspects, so experiment sexually.  All of the things that you have always wanted to try out in the sex department can be experimented with here!  If they work you can always pull them out later! 

Tip #4:  While you don’t have to tend to the emotional needs of the person that you are having a one night stand with, don’t be rude.  The worst thing you can do is be a jerk to the person before, during, or after your sexual encounter.  Make it clear going in that you don’t want any attachments, but don’t treat them rudely.  If they were good enough to sleep with they are good enough to treat in a dignified manner.  The idea is to walk away from the experience with only good memories, for both people, but with no continuing commitment.

Tip #5:  Don’t talk about it.  Allow for the one night stand to be your secret. If you want to mention it to friends, don’t share the person’s name.  The world is a much smaller place than we often realize and when you share this information you may accidentally damage the reputation of the person that you had the one night encounter with.

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