Some Things You Don’t Need to Share
We live in a society where information is golden, or is it? We all get stuck thinking that we need to share the good, the bad, and the ugly when we begin dating someone, but this isn’t necessarily true. The old “What they don’t know won’t kill them adage” often proves very true. You don’t have to share everything about your past or even recent history if it will not have any bearing on your current relationship.
There are some things that you may not need to share such as:
You just moved out of your parent’s house. Adults that live with their parents get a bad reputation, regardless of the reasoning. If you just moved out and you are now on your own, why taint your love interest’s opinion of you by divulging this information? It will serve no purpose other than to change the way they think or feel, so why bother?
You don’t need to share the fact that you have slept with the bartender at your local haunt. If your love interest asks if you know the bartender because of a familiarity, say yes, that you know them, but you don’t need to divulge the fact that you slept together. This may put your days at your favorite place to an end or you may be accused of liking that bar because of the bartender, which likely isn’t true if you are with someone new!
Don’t share information that will cast your friends in a bad light. If they tend to sleep around or have some bad habits or indulge in things that could cast them in a bad light, just refrain from sharing this information. Chances are they will figure it out on their own, but hopefully by then they have learned that your friends are also a lot of fun to be around and they will accept their flaws and move on.
Don’t talk about the guy or gal that got away. The last thing that anyone wants to think about the person that they are dating is that there is someone out there that they are pining away after. If one got away, accept it and move on, but certainly don’t share it with your current love interest as they will always feel that you are not only damaged goods, but that there is someone out there that they will never live up to.
If you liked their friend first, absolutely don’t tell them that! Not only will it hurt their feelings, they may always wonder if you are just using them to get closer to their friend. True as it may be, you don’t want to hurt the person that you are dating now, so just leave this little detail out when retelling the story of how you met or when you first noticed them!