When You’re Tired of Fighting
If you are like a lot of people who are in a relationship, you fight and you fight a lot. In fact, chances are you have continued to fight for days, weeks, months or even years. You will continue to fight until you are so tired of it that you just won’t do it anymore. If you are tired of fighting you can put an end to the tension, to the arguing, and more in your relationship. If you are tired of fighting and you are dedicated to putting an end to it, you can turn your relationship around.
Despite what many people think, if you are tired of fighting and you want to put a stop to it, you can. You don’t need both people to want to stop fighting, you just need to be the one who puts a stop to it. The first thing you need to do to put an end to the fighting is really look at your relationship and decide that you want to save it instead of losing it to fighting and bickering.
Next, you need to tell your loved one that you are not going to fight with them anymore. Let them know that you may disagree and that you may not always see eye to eye, but you are done with the yelling and screaming and all of the behavior that has been going on. They may laugh at you or just think you’re insane, but let them know that you are done.
Now that you have declared your intention to stop fighting you need to stick to it. You need to be honest with yourself about what sets you off and what you do to push the buttons of your mate. When you are honest with yourself about this you will find that it is a lot easier to get down to the root of the problem and truly stop the fighting in its tracks. When you know what sets you off you can avoid it and when you realize that you are also pushing buttons you can make changes to your behavior to diffuse situations.
When a situation presents itself where you would have fought in the past, you need to change the way that you behave so you don’t fight now. Either don’t push buttons or don’t respond when your mate tries to push your buttons. This is easier said than done, but with a bit of practice and some dedication to not fighting you will find that you can do it. Over time your mate will notice that you are not fighting back and they will stop trying so hard and you will find the generally your whole relationship. You are going to disagree from time to time, but disagreements don’t have to be fights.